ROGER D. COFFMAN, SR
MARCH 14, 2009
“A soft answer turneth away wrath; but grievous words stir up anger.” (Prov. 15:1)
Effective communication is the secret to success in any relationship. Controlling my thought life by listening to my Inner Guidance System will produce life and health in a relationship. There is either life or death in the power of my tongue. The Creator of mankind has already given me the power of I AM. For instance, “I AM a successful communicator, for I hold my thoughts before I speak.” “I AM exhibiting Maturity, as evidenced when I allow Wisdom to have her perfect work when I AM speaking to people.” “I present my thoughts in a positive fashion, never leaving the person guessing at what I’m saying.” “I choose to respectfully remain silent when the other person is speaking; therefore enabling myself to hear that person clearly.”
“As a man thinketh, so is he.” Prov. 23:7
When I allow myself to think judgmental thoughts as I listen to a speaker [example: Jane Doe is not presenting this subject in nearly as good a fashion as John Smith did last week at another meeting.] I AM allowing my intellectual mind to run amuck, and I stand the chance of not really hearing what the speaker is saying. I’m too lost in my own thoughts as soon as I make the determination or judgment against the speaker.
Jesus said, “But let your communication; be Yea, Yea; Nay, nay; for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.” (Matt. 5:37)
James went a little further when he said, “But above all things, my brethern, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but yea, yea and nay, nay lest ye fall into condemnation.” (Jas. 5:12)
I choose to be silent and focused, waiting upon Father to speak through me, as His representative in human form… This action always produces life and health in every situation. I allow Psa. 19:14 to guide me. The psalmist David said: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in Thy sight, oh Lord, my strength and my redeemer.”
I have found this approach to be very productive when communicating with others.
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